thankfulness

"Grateful Hearts" - Matthew 6:25-34

Matthew 6:25-34

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, or about your body, what you will wear.  Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow, nor reap, nor gather into barns and yet your heavenly Father feeds them.  Are you not of more value than they? And can any of you by worrying add a single hour to your span of life? And why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they neither toil nor spin and yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not clothed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you – you of little faith?”

“Therefore, do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ for it is the Gentiles who strive for all these things; and indeed your heavenly Father knows that you need all of these things. But strive first for the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well.”

My thoughts for tonight fall under the category of “Practical and Holy,” something you hear me say often around here, I hope. I was reminded again this week about how giving thanks – experiencing and expressing gratitude – is a holy, spiritual discipline for our day-to-day lives that has practical consequences, for us and for others when we get it right and when we do it well.

This “practical and holy” reminder came in the form of a news story about how gratitude is literally good for the heart. (Gratitude is Good for the Soul and Helps the Heart, NPR News) And I’m talking about the heart – not the spiritual, touchy-feely, heart-shaped part of your soul, whatever that is – but good for the muscle of your heart that beats beneath your rib-cage, tucked somewhere behind or between your lungs, doing what it does to keep your blood moving and your life, living.

The short version of the story is that Paul Mills, a neurophysiologist, at the University of California at San Diego, recruited patients with heart damage from things like high blood pressure, heart attacks, infections, even to part of a study. 186 men and women, with an average age of 66, played along. They filled out questionnaires, reporting their levels of gratitude for the stuff of their life like people, places, and things.

And the results showed that those who considered themselves to be more grateful, also proved to be less depressed, to sleep better, and to have more energy than those who landed on the lower end of the grateful scale. Even blood work on these subjects showed lower levels of indicators like inflammation and plaque for those who identified themselves as more grateful than others.

And, since these subjects already had problems with damage to their hearts, the researcher took all of this a step further and asked his people to keep a daily journal of gratitude where they were to write – sentences, paragraphs, pages, whatever – about whatever it was that made them feel grateful in their daily lives. Of course, they wrote about things like children, spouses, pets, travel, jobs, and more.

And after 2 months of this deliberate, gratitude journaling, results showed that writing about gratitude – engaging a daily practice of thanksgiving – actually lowered their heart disease risks. Inflammation decreased, heart rhythm improved, and so on.

The research doesn’t try to explain why any of this happens, exactly, but the researchers suggest all of this “thanks-giving” reduces stress for people by helping them to focus on the things they can be grateful for which, in some way, helps us cope in the face of struggles; it puts our struggles into perspective, maybe; it allows us to see a balance, at least, between those things in our lives and in the world that threaten or sadden us and those things in our lives and in the world that bless us and bring us joy or comfort or hope or peace. (You can listen to the brief, two-and-a-half minute piece from Morning Edition, here.)

“Do not worry about your life. What you will eat or what you will drink, or about your body, what you will wear. Isn’t life more than food and the body more than clothing?” Jesus asks, in the Gospel.

What I like about this little ditty from Jesus in the context of this research, and as we gather to celebrate Thanksgiving, is that it puts the spiritual practice of gratitude into the context of something that is as good for me as it is for the ones – and for The One – to whom I am grateful. By being… by experiencing… by expressing…thanksgiving, I get holier, and healthier, and happier along the way. How great is that? And I’ll take it as just one of many signs of God’s abundance, in my life and for the sake of the world.

See, God doesn’t want us to give thanks and to be generous and to practice gratitude because we need another thing to add to our lists or schedules or spiritual disciplines. But isn’t that how we sell gratitude and thanksgiving in our lives? Think about the way we teach our kids to “say please and thank you.” As often as not, it’s all about being polite…as something we should do…as something we ought to do…as something that seems to be all about the other person/people to whom we’re being grateful.

But I wonder if Jesus didn’t know something the scientist in San Diego learned from his research: that being and expressing gratitude – experiencing thankfulness, like any good gift – is as good for the one who offers it up as it is for the one who receives it.

When we hear the Psalmist sing, “I will give thanks to you, O Lord, among the peoples; I will sing praises to you among the nations,” imagine the implications that has for a soul and a spirit in a world like the one we live in today. (Psalm 57:9)

We're hearing about the art of giving thanks in the face of struggle and hardship, not just around a table full of family and friends and turkey and pumpkin pie. And that's the kind of lifestyle, the sort of Kingdom living, Jesus us calls us toward.

In Matthew 6 – with all those words about worry – Jesus is speaking as someone who loves his people – his friends and his family and his followers – and as someone who wants the best for them.

So the thanksgiving we’re called to as followers of Jesus is meant to be more than just a discipline or a chore – certainly not just an annual extravaganza around a table overflowing with our favorite food and crowded with some of our favorite people, or not-so favorite people, as the case may be.

The thanksgiving Jesus calls us to is meant to be a daily blessing for our lives – one that does a good work through us and for us, just the same, by putting our struggles into perspective; by putting our lives into balance; by helping us to see what is good and righteous in our midst, even if we are surrounded by so much to the contrary, too.

Because our Thanksgiving, in Jesus, reminds us that we are blessed in the face of our struggles. We are made strong through our weakness. We are rich when we are poor. We are promised new life, even, in the face of death. And for that – and so much more – we are called to give thanks, with grateful hearts, that are changed for the better, when we do.

Amen

"Go Ahead, Slurp Your Soup" – Luke 17:11-19

Luke 17:11-19

On the way to Jerusalem Jesus was going through the region between Samaria and Galilee. As he entered a village, ten lepers approached him. Keeping their distance, they called out, saying, "Jesus, Master, have mercy on us!" When he saw them, he said to them, "Go and show yourselves to the priests." And as they went, they were made clean.

Then one of them, when he saw that he was healed, turned back, praising God with a loud voice. He prostrated himself at Jesus' feet and thanked him. And he was a Samaritan. Then Jesus asked, "Were not ten made clean? But the other nine, where are they? Was none of them found to return and give praise to God except this foreigner?" Then he said to him, "Get up and go on your way; your faith has made you well."


I’d like to begin by playing a little video about Thanksgiving; perhaps this will touch on some nostalgia for some of you. But don’t give in to the nostalgia; pay attention to the message.

“Could you wish for more?”

Kind of creepy, right? Ironic how the words happy, glad, and fun occur a dozen times and yet none of those adjectives can describe a single person in the film! They’re too concerned about having good table manners and eating soup without making a sound that they can’t be happy, glad, or fun.

I was drawn to this video because it says something about a life spent going through the motions, pursuing happiness through strict rule-following; living with an understanding that other peoples’ quality of life will be improved if you don’t bother them with the sound of slurping soup.

Yes, I think we can wish for more.

I think we ARE wishing for more.

As my mind turned towards thinking about Thanksgiving this year, I thought of...
...the woman who will experience her first holiday without her mom, who died last month;
...the couple who will experience their first Thanksgiving after their divorce;
...the neglected who will watch another holiday come and go without a single word of love and encouragement from another person;
...the families who will sit in uncomfortable silence, lest someone say something that ignites the powder keg of dysfunctional family dynamics;
...those grateful for a day off from a job that destroys their souls;
...or the unemployed, who would give anything to return to their jobs, whether they were meaningful or not.

For Thanksgiving this year, let’s wish for more; more than having good table manners, not slurping our soup, and not being a bother to our dinner guests. Instead, let’s wish for mercy.

Today’s Gospel story reassures us that we are free and encouraged to approach Jesus, calling out, “Jesus, Master, have mercy on us!”

Just like like the ten lepers in today’s gospel, we can and will be made clean.

All ten of the lepers who sought mercy received mercy and healing. But here’s where it gets interesting – only one of the healed ex-lepers saw that he was healed. Only one of the healed ex-lepers returned to Jesus with the profound thanks and praise of one who has been saved.

Everyone who seeks mercy will receive it; but not everyone will notice it is there. Failure to notice the mercy in our life – the presence of God in our life – will cause us to search for mercy elsewhere, be it in a bottle of alcohol or pills, an abusive relationship, the false comfort of material wealth, isolation from others, or any other number of possible alternatives.

Could we wish for more?

How about wishing to have the faith of the one leper who bothered to stop, take a look around, and realize that our afflictions are not our identity; the faith of the one leper who realized that he was healed; the faith of the one leper who returned to the source of healing, feel to his knees, and thanked Jesus; the faith of the one leper who stood back up and went on his way, “made whole, restored, drawn back into relationship with God and humanity.”

“Thanksgiving is about seeing all that we have been given and rejoicing in a way that cannot help but shape how we act.”*

May your Thanksgiving celebration be an occasion to stop, reflect, and realize the grace that is in  your life. May your Thanksgiving celebration look less like the kids staying quiet so the dinner guests can be happy, and more like this: