Pastor Cogan

God's Not Fair

Matthew 20:1-16

“For the kingdom of heaven is like a landowner who went out early in the morning to hire laborers for his vineyard.

After agreeing with the laborers for the usual daily wage, he sent them into his vineyard. When he went out about nine o’clock, he saw others standing idle in the marketplace; and he said to them,

‘You also go into the vineyard, and I will pay you whatever is right.’ So they went. When he went out again about noon and about three o’clock, he did the same. And about five o’clock he went out and found others standing around; and he said to them,

‘Why are you standing here idle all day?’ They said to him, ‘Because no one has hired us.’ He said to them, ‘You also go into the vineyard.’

When evening came, the owner of the vineyard said to his manager, ‘Call the laborers and give them their pay, beginning with the last and then going to the first.’

When those hired about five o’clock came, each of them received the usual daily wage. Now when the first came, they thought they would receive more; but each of them also received the usual daily wage.

And when they received it, they grumbled against the landowner, saying, ‘These last worked only one hour, and you have made them equal to us who have borne the burden of the day and the scorching heat.’

But he replied to one of them, ‘Friend, I am doing you no wrong; did you not agree with me for the usual daily wage?

Take what belongs to you and go; I choose to give to this last the same as I give to you.

Am I not allowed to do what I choose with what belongs to me? Or are you envious because I am generous?’ So the last will be first, and the first will be last.”


Tim was one of our neighbors at St. John’s. He and his brother slept on our property most nights, usually under a bougainvillea bush. Tim was about my age, I think, hard to tell with folks who have lived on the streets for some years. He had a lip ring, dressed in baggy clothes, and walked with a limp. Most days I saw him panhandling at one of the major intersections near the church, holding a sign that said “anything helps, God Bless” in one hand and his cane in the other.

Tim never said much but he was always kind, thankful for the coffee I’d bring out, and the peanut butter from the food pantry. It was common for our neighbors to drift, spend a few days on our property and then be gone for a while. One day I realized I hadn’t seen Tim at all that week and wondered where he’d been. I walked around to find him, sure enough he was there. I asked him where he’d been. With more energy than I’d ever heard from him, he said, “I am great! I was working yesterday.” “Tim, thats wonderful! Where were you working?” “Oh just as a day laborer for a construction job”.

Immediately, I thought of this parable.

If there was ever a parable, a teaching of Jesus that was counterintuitive to our culture, insulting, that smacked in the face of what we teach in schools, at home, in the workplace, it would be this one. We get what we earn; that's only fair. Which is why this parable infuriates us. For most of us, I imagine we identify with the laborers who went into the vineyard first. You got up early, went into town before 6:00am and were off working shortly after agreeing to the usual daily wage. You’ve worked all day, endured the heat, plucked more grapes, pruned more vines, and then when it’s time to get paid, you’re a little frustrated that the people who came last get paid first and get paid the same amount you agreed to.. for a 12th of the work.

In your head, you start to do the math, “wow if she’s got that much, I’ll get 12x times that, it’ll only be fair”. Then to your absolute shock, you get whatever else got. And rather than rejoicing that these fellow laborers have what they need to feed their families for another day, you are outraged at them and the landowner; Never stopping to wonder why the folks were picked over in the first place or why they showed up later, you think “how could these people get the same pay?! They didn’t earn it, they didn’t work hard enough for it, they are not worthy of it”. And that sentiment, that feeling right there, is something we’ve all felt.

We question the worth of others all the time, from little things to big. “Well they don’t really deserve $15 an hour, it’s just fast food. If they aren’t working, why do they get medicaid? And why put that beautiful new park in that neighborhood, it’ll just get ruined”. We try to say what people are worthy and unworthy of all the time.

Yet here Jesus tells us that the way he works, the way God works is opposite to how our world works. God doesn’t give according to worthiness, but according to need. In fact it is because we are unworthy that God so freely, generously gives love and mercy and grace. But, surely I am not the only one who has thought, “but that person doesn’t deserve forgiveness. Or how can God love me and that person the same?! They didn’t earn grace like I have!”

And there's the point to this parable, to the kingdom of heaven, to the way God works in this world… you can’t earn any of it! God’s grace is not dependent on you earning it through good deeds, or working hard, or how many hours you clock in at church. Everyone, regardless of how long you’ve been a follower of Jesus, how much or how little you think you sin, or the doubts you carry, everyone is offered the same grace, the same daily wage, including people like Tim.

I asked Tim how his day at the site went. He said “it was really good, especially because I got paid for a full day even though I showed up more than two hours late”… At first, I couldn’t help but think that Tim didn’t deserve that full day’s pay; he was late, given his physical condition he couldn’t have moved mountains at the construction site. But then I thought about all that Tim had to go through just to arrive at the job.

After sleeping outside under a bush, Tim had to wake up extra early so he could limp his way down to the bus stop. Hopefully he had some peanut butter or canned fruit left from the pantry to eat before standing in the phoenix sun all day. Then he had to take who knows how many transfers and pray the lines were running on time. No wonder he was two hours late, in fact it’s really an achievement he was only two hours late. And then I saw the large cup of coffee he had gotten from the gas station, the food from the Walmart down the street (enough to share with his brother and the others in his group). Why was I so quick to judge Tim unworthy? And unworthy of what, food? A Hot cup of coffee? He may not have deserved a full day's pay, but he certainly needed it.

As I walked away, I was glad that the construction manager, whoever they were, decided to be generous and not fair; just like the landowner, and just like God

If the parable tells us anything, it's that God isn’t fair. And isn’t that the best news we could hear today? Instead of being fair, God is generous. You can’t be both. God does not give to us as we deserve, but according to our need; giving more than we could ever earn, not holding back because of mistakes we made, the doubts we hold, the judgment we’ve passed on others, nor anything else.

The same decision lies before each of us as individuals and as a congregation. We can be fair, giving to others only what they deserve or what they’ve earned of our time, our trust, our money. Or we can be generous, and give more than what’s expected, meeting the needs of our neighbors.

The choice is ours.

Amen.


Conflict in Community

Matthew 18:15-20

[Jesus said] “If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone. If the member listens to you, you have regained that one. But if you are not listened to, take one or two others along with you, so that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If the member refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if the offender refuses to listen even to the church, let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. Again, truly I tell you, if two of you agree on earth about anything you ask, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.”


It was my first Sunday working at a church in Milwaukee, my first job after college. My first task was to prep the sanctuary and narthex: setup communion, put the plates out, and bring out the bulletins. No big deal I thought, did that quickly and went about meeting folks… that is until Ron called me over and said follow me. He promptly took me back to the Narthex and informed me the offering plates were in the wrong spot. I had them on the ledge next to some pink envelopes. They needed to be five feet over, next to the other pink envelopes, how else would the ushers know where to get them? The last intern never got this right, he said and he wanted me to get off to a good start, so he came to me directly. I wonder if Ron had Matthew 18 in mind that Sunday morning. He did in fact come to me directly, not sharing with the whole congregation, “Cogan put the plates in the wrong spot, gonna be a rough year”.

It sounds small, silly even, but so are many conflicts in church (or at home or with friends), until they become something bigger. No church, or family, or organization is immune from conflict. Because they are all made up of people, and people as we know, are wonderful, sinful beings; we mess up, we’re impatient, selfish, passive aggressive. Maybe you’ve been on the receiving end and have been sinned against. Or you’ve been the one someone else has approached with something you did, or said, or didn’t do and didn’t say. Most likely you’ve experienced both.

Jesus was being generous saying, “if” instead of “when” another member of the church sins against you, knowing full well it would happen. And that translation, while inclusive, limits the intimacy of the Greek that says if a brother sins against you. So it’s not some stranger, but a sibling, someone close to you, you know them; this relationship is important not only to you, but to the larger family. If this relationship is damaged, it hurts the whole family.

What follows from Jesus is often seen as the Christian/church process for dealing with conflict. First, if you are sinned against, go to the person directly, discreetly, and point out the fault. (not email, not text, and certainly not through someone else).

This is good practical advice; it lessens triangles and minimizes damage, both to the person and the community. And if in the one on one conversation, the sinning sibling listens, then the relationship is repaired and you have gained back your sibling. Yet, if there is disagreement on the matter, involve one or two others, not as a way to pile on examples or gang up on someone. That’s not what Jesus is saying. Rather, bring one or two others so that they can testify to what was said between the two parties.

If that still doesn’t work, things get much more serious and the whole community gets involved, ultimately making the decision if the person remains in the community or not. If not, they become like a gentile and tax collector. Don’t miss the irony here; Jesus visits Gentile towns and heals them. He has meals with tax collectors, calls them to be his disciples, the very gospel we’re reading is attributed to a tax collector. Jesus is always about the business of making outsiders, insiders.

Which should tell us more about what Jesus is after than the process itself. These steps are not a full-proof system to conflict resolution. There is no guarantee that just because each step was followed that the outcome was a faithful decision in line with God’s hope for the community.

In fact, there are countless instances where this process has caused more harm than good.

A power-hungry pastor ostracizes an opposing voice by making a private confession public;

a college ministry follows these steps as a way to weed out less committed members;

a favorite spouse is picked in a divorce, forcing the other to leave the church.

You can imagine many ways this process can inflict hurt, doing the opposite of what Jesus intended.

Jesus isn’t saying follow these steps to get your way or to root out all conflict. What’s important is maintaining or repairing the relationships in the midst of conflict if at all possible, for the sake of the community.

And not all conflict is bad. Conflict can be good, bringing about clarity and connectedness. Often, not always, conflict shows a level of comfort and trust. I get concerned when I talk with friends in a committed relationship or do premarital counseling and I ask how communication is, and they say something like, “Great! We never fight”. I’ll quip back, “That’s great! Neither of you are being honest!”.

I think of a story I heard from a pastor. As a dad, he was absent for much of his daughter’s adolescence and early teen years. After sobering up, he rekindled a relationship with his former wife and daughter, 15 years old by this time. For nearly two years, the dad worked hard to rebuild a relationship with his daughter, be reliable, present, and honest with her, careful not to overstep bounds. Then one day, as the dad shares the story, his daughter was doing something she wasn’t supposed to be doing. He called her out on it, and she let him have it… saying to her dad,

“You ruined my life. You destroyed everything. I’ve never had a family, I’ve never felt loved, I’ve never felt like I had any worth. You stole everything from me.”

And she screamed it three inches from his face. And then the dad says he walked outside and got on the phone with a friend and they wept, wept tears of joy because they knew she trusted him enough to yell, to face conflict, not worrying anymore that she’d do or say something to make him leave again. The conflict showed a new level of trust. There is going to be conflict in every community. In fact I hope that there is conflict and that we address it, because Jesus promises to be there, right in the midst of it.

We’ve all heard this line from Jesus, “where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them”. It’s so often used as referring to any gathering of two or three people of faith in any setting. And while that may be true, (I certainly don’t doubt or limit Jesus' presence) Jesus is speaking to a more specific situation, namely conflict. When two or three are gathered to sort things out, to argue over something, to confront the hurt one sibling has caused another, to point out a wrongdoing, Jesus is there. We think it’s the opposite, in times of unity or places of peace, Jesus must be there. And that’s true. But here Jesus tells us that in the situations we’d least expect, in the midst of conflict and anger, resentment and reprove, shame and hurt, Jesus promises to be there.

The question for us, Cross of Grace, is what kind of community will we be? How will we do Life Together? Will we avoid tough conversations and harbor hurt, unable to trust the Partner in Mission sitting right across from you?

Or do we want something more meaningful and connected, albeit riskier and harder? Conflict will arise over things big and small, from where the offering plates are placed to disagreements on racial justice.

Yet, the hope is always reconciliation and continued fellowship and that’s the point Jesus is making.

So address the conflict, directly, discreetly, humbly, trusting that where two or three are gathered, Jesus is there. Amen.