Advent

"Give More. Worship Fully." - Matthew 2:1-3, 8-11

Give More; Worship Fully
Mark Havel

Matthew 2:1-3, 8-11

In the time of King Herod, after Jesus was born in Bethlehem of Judea, wise men from the East came to Jerusalem, asking,'Where is the child who was been born king of the Jews? For we observed his star at its rising, and have come to pay him homage.' When King Herod heard this, he was frightened and all Jerusalem with him. Then he sent them to Bethlehem, saying, 'God and search diligently for the child; and when you have found him, bring me word sot hat I may also go and pay him homage.' When they had heard the king, they set out; and there, ahead of them, went the star that they had seen at its rising, until it stopped over the place where the child was. When they saw that the star had stopped, they were overwhelmed with joy. On entering the house, they saw the child with Mary his mother; and they knelt down and paid him homage. Then, opening their treasure chests, they offered him gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh.


Well, Pastor Aaron and I decided before we got into this Advent Conspiracy series that, since we only have three mid-week services, we’d focus on three of the four themes – “Spend Less,” “Give More,” and “Love All”. We thought we’d forego the other theme, “Worship Fully,” by virtue of the fact that we live that out by gathering for so much worship these days – on Sundays and midweek Wednesdays and for special services, like Blue Christmas and Christmas Eve. We worship pretty fully around here from one year to the next, during Advent.

But Pastor Aaron did such a good job last Wednesday encouraging us to “Spend Less,” and he also gave us some good ideas about ways to “Give More,” which was to be my topic for tonight. So I wondered what else there was left to say about that that would be new or different or better for tonight. So as I stewed about all of this over the course of the past week, I noticed something that changed my plan.

Because I was spinning these themes around in my head – “Give More.” And “Worship Fully.”  “Give More.” “Worship Fully.”  What if we “Give more worshipfully?” Get it? What would happen if we approached the whole gift-giving enterprise and exercise of Christmas, from a place of worship – whether we’re preparing gifts for our first-born child or for our great Aunt Betsy; whether buying for our best friend or for our children’s school bus driver; whether we’re shopping for our spouse or for that silly secret-Santa gift we have to get for the office Christmas party?

What if, in all of it, we could “give more worshipfully,” like the wise men, those magi, who came looking for Jesus; following a star; bearing gifts; longing to pay the king homage in a holy, humble, worship-filled way, so many years ago? What if our Christmas – and all of its gift-giving – looked more like that?

See, those wise men came presenting gifts, not as a birthday surprise for the baby Jesus. Not as a baby shower. Not as uncles-so-and-so trying to out-do one another with the latest, greatest thing from the Toys-R-Us catalog. They came bearing gifts because they were looking to find a King. And back in the day, when you entered into the presence of a King, you were expected to bring a gift – out of respect; out of reverence; perhaps with some measure of gratitude and humility.

So, if we think about what Christmas morning looks like in most of our homes, it may look like a birthday party. We may even acknowledge that it’s Jesus’ big day somehow. But when was the last child’s birthday party you went to where everyone got a gift except for the birthday boy? And isn’t that what most of our living rooms look like on Christmas morning? The gifts get piled up and passed around, but how many of us have a pile of presents for Jesus?

Okay, maybe there’s a way to wrap some gifts up for Jesus – and that would be a really great lesson and tradition to begin, perhaps – but that’s not exactly what I’m getting at. I think we can still give gifts AND I think we can give wisely and faithfully and with Jesus at the center of what we offer. I mean there are ways to do good and to share grace in our giving. There really are ways to “give more worshipfully” – to include Jesus in the mix – and I think some of this can be as practical and as holy as we’re willing to let it be.

There are companies like TOMS with what they call their “One for One” business model.  Buy a pair of shoes from TOMS and someone in need, somewhere else in the world, gets a pair of shoes themselves. They do it with eyeware, too. Buy a pair of sunglasses from TOMS and they’ll help restore the sight of someone in need, somewhere on the planet. You get cool shades and someone else gets to see? How great and holy is that? And they’ve just gotten into the coffee business, too, so every bag of coffee you by from TOMS Roasting Company, provides a week’s worth of clean drinking water for someone in need. That’s GIVING WORSHIPFULLY, if you ask me, and it’s a way to include Jesus on your shopping list. (Shop at TOMS here.)

Of course, there are ways to do that closer to home, too. Give the Fair Trade coffee, tea and chocolate we sell here because it helps farmers and families make a living they wouldn’t otherwise be able to sustain.  (Learn more about Lutheran World Relief and their Fair Trade project.) Take a tag from the tree in the entry and get it back here by next week so someone who might not otherwise be able to, will have a better kind of Christmas this time around. Whatever offering you leave on these Wednesday nights we’ll use to throw the party we’re planning for foster families from Hancock County next Friday.

There are lots of ways to do this – to keep Jesus on, or to add Jesus to our Christmas shopping list, I mean – so that we’re not celebrating his birthday without including him in the fun.

Here’s one more.  What if we did some math and tithed our Christmas gift-giving and meal-preparing budgets in order to do something for Jesus?

Statistics are all over the map about this, of course, but I saw that, a couple of years ago, the average parent spent $271 per child on Christmas gifts. That same year, 1 in 10 families spent $500 per child on Christmas gifts. That may or may not surprise you. That may or may not be a reality in your house. I’m not judging it either way, necessarily. But it did make me wonder, if those are the numbers for parents, what in the world must the numbers look like for all of you offspring-spoiling grandparents out there?! (You know who you are!) And what difference could a tithe of that kind of money do for the sake of Jesus in the world?

What if we totaled up all the money we will spend this Christmas and gave 10% of it back to God somehow? It sounds so practical, but it’s holy, too, don’t you think? Hard, perhaps. A whole new way of doing Christmas for many of us. But holy, for sure. A mere 10% for the guest of honor? It sort of seems like a no-brainer.

And I don’t mind suggesting you could check out the new, updated “Wish List” I put together just for the occasion. (It’s full of things we could use around here for the sake of our ministry.) Or know that we could use your “Christmas tithe” for the ministry of our General Fund. Or you could sponsor a kid in Fondwa, Haiti. (You can do that through Family Health Ministries or by talking to Pastor Mark.) Or help to re-stock our food pantry, after a busy holiday season.

And what if we really did wrap those gifts and put them under the tree? And what if we really did open them before or after we open up all the other loot and booty that's ours on Christmas morning – just for a little perspective?

The bottom line here is that if we “Give More Worshipfully,” we might do Christmas differently. We may spend more. It may mean we’ll spend less. I don’t know what it might mean for you or your family. But I believe it will help us to spend what is right. I have to believe we’ll spend less on things that don’t matter all that much in the long run. I think we’ll buy more wisely. I imagine we’ll invest in things and in people and in places that make our giving more meaningful – for us and for those we love.

And I believe that if worship is at the heart of how and what we give at Christmas, we’ll honor God, like those wise men did so long ago. And, ultimately then, God’s grace will be revealed to us and through us and for the world in ways that really are what Christmas – and the coming of Jesus – are supposed to be all about.

Amen

"Winning the Holidays" – Matthew 1:20-23

Winning the Holidays
Aaron Stamper

An angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream and said, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary as your wife, for the child conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will bear a son, and you are to name him Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.” All this took place to fulfill what had been spoken by the Lord through the prophet:
“Look, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall name him Emmanuel,” which means, “God is with us.”


Find something to write with and begin thinking about and writing down words or phrases that describe your thoughts about the holiday season. Don’t over-think it, just go with your gut. Also, please only write down the words or phrases that are authentic representations of how you really feel this time of year; don’t write down how you think you should feel.

I did this activity earlier. Here’s what I came up with:
busy
Christmas music
logistical nightmares
lots of coffee
excited kids
shopping

Apparently that’s what Christmas means to me. Can we all agree that is less than inspiring?

Fortunately, I didn’t have to look far to find the answer to what ails me at Christmastime:
For what to my wondering eyes should surface, but my “2014 Holiday Playbook” from the United States Postal Service. Dropped off by my mailman, on the coldest of days, it would tell me everything I need to win the holidays!

Yes, winning the holidays; that’s what Christmas has come to. Hosting the best meal; putting up the best decorations; working the hardest to get the biggest bonus; giving the best gift; and, of course, getting the best deal. “Winning” wasn’t one of my words from the earlier activity, but I can see it lurking in the shadows; fueling my caffeinated busyness, my shopping, and my logistical nightmares.

Out of curiosity I opened up the “2014 Holiday Playbook,” finding a list of seven things the postal service can do for me without me ever having to leave my house. How convenient! Thanks to the USPS now I can win the holidays and never have to make any contact with another human being. Ok, I’m an introvert and even I think that’s messed up!

I don’t mean to pick on the USPS; of all the forces plotting against an authentic and profound experience of a religious holiday season commemorating the Son of God being born into poverty to an unwed mother, they’re among the least venomous assailants. But this phrase “Everything you need to win the holidays” really hit me hard; it’s just another symptom of a larger disease – namely,  our “dis-ease” – or more accurately, our rush to treat our “dis-ease” with the medicine of money.

We are not content. That’s a fact of life. Not a single one of us is content; which is understandable. Not being content prevents us from becoming complacent. Not being content is what leads people to innovate, invent, and improvise. And, frankly, how could we possibly be content given the state of our world today?

  • Millions go to bed hungry and have no access to clean water.
  • Wars rage, fueled by money, territory, cultures, religious beliefs, and politics.
  • Pundits on “news” channels are paid absurd sums to stoke irrational fires and to draw lines of who is right and wrong, who is in and out.
  • Children are shot in our schools, most often at the hands of individuals with severe mental disorders which our country has no funding nor political willpower to adequately address.
  • We work ourselves ragged, thinking that sacrificing time with loved ones in order to earn more money will ultimately result in a better life for them.

Each one of us is aware of something missing from our lives; an emptiness that yearns to be filled, a hunger that craves to be satisfied. Yes, how will we fill the emptiness and feed the hunger? How will we win the holidays?

The answer is not in a USPS guide to winning the holidays; it's not in the the sale flyers that stuff our newspapers; it's not in our credit cards or bank accounts.

I’m sorry. I wish money could buy happiness; just like I wish an expensive gift could fill people with love; just like I kind of wish we could win the holidays by staying inside all month in our PJs typing on a computer and waiting for the mail carrier to come. It would all be so much easier.

But it’s all a lie. We can’t buy love. We can’t make the world a better place by shopping for the perfect gift.

This Advent, we are asking you to conspire against the hyper-consumerist mindset that threatens to obliterate the gift of the Christ-child with its lie that expensive and extravagant gift-giving is the best way to express love.

One of the pastors who created the Advent Conspiracy concept, wrote this, “We are constantly searching for the one thing that will satisfy us. Yet each time we trust the promises of our possessions, more barriers are raised between our true selves and God’s plain command to love [Him] above all things. It’s not that we necessarily want more – it’s that what we want is something we can’t buy.” (From Advent Conspiracy, page 24)

As we recognize our dis-ease, we are challenged to embrace a way of living which seeks to provide relationships over retail and presence over presents.

“Look, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son,
    and they shall name him Emmanuel,”which means, “God is with us.”

We are gathered together as people of God who believe that God is real, God loves us, and God has given us the ultimate gift of his presence in our lives. God is not “up there” watching our lives unfold on a two-dimensional flat-screen like a soap opera. Instead, god is Emmanuel – “with us.” God’s presence in our lives is so great that not even death could separate it from us.

Let’s not cheapen the gift of God’s presence by rushing out and buying expensive crap. Instead, let’s be more thoughtful, intentional, personal and relational. Let’s give something of ourselves to the people who are in need. That’s the only way to truly honor God’s presence in our lives.

To be clear, I don’t want you to leave tonight and say, “Sorry dear, Pastor Aaron told me not to give you any presents this year.” What I’m saying is that I want you to give a better present, something that’s value isn’t measurable with a dollar sign.

Here is a link to the Advent Conspiracy page on Pinterest. It has some wonderful and thoughtful gift ideas, so please check it out. Here are a few ideas to spark your imagination:

  • you could buy two blank journals, one for you and one for someone else, with the understanding that you would write down thoughts throughout the year and next Christmas you exchange them, allowing the other person a unique glimpse into who you really are;
  • you could write down your favorite stories of someone else and give them as a gift;
  • you could give a gift of a mug along with the stipulation that it only be used when you get together once a month for coffee and catching up;
  • make a meal for someone who you know is struggling.

Those are just a few examples of meaningful gifts they convey the real reason for the season.

To conclude, I want to invite you into silent reflection. At that time I would like you to look at the worship bulletin and circle the words that you want Christmas to be about this year. Then print the bulletin and take it with you. Use it as your new Christmas gift-buying guide, thinking of ways to give gifts that spread the true meaning of Christmas: Emmanuel–God with us.